tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-814687850749810602024-03-05T11:36:30.483-08:00I Miss You CupcakeI want it all, I want it now, and I want it with sprinkles...Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-62641904675319199412008-03-06T05:24:00.000-08:002008-03-06T05:37:07.824-08:00Packing Light<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEifDSWXVDoswnUBnR1CZ1qQUGE76dhCwOnTV9WuUrKXXQDkazMIF7dSn00pyap7E5mgvNhUuo3AnZxk1KJWKYMPVhrMpC18rmHKv5PrxEvXyUIMdNvtYh7OL99ELj3o7ktZ6xqWe5eHzPsb/s1600-h/Luggage1.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEifDSWXVDoswnUBnR1CZ1qQUGE76dhCwOnTV9WuUrKXXQDkazMIF7dSn00pyap7E5mgvNhUuo3AnZxk1KJWKYMPVhrMpC18rmHKv5PrxEvXyUIMdNvtYh7OL99ELj3o7ktZ6xqWe5eHzPsb/s320/Luggage1.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5174622012318449490" border="0" /></a><br /> <p class="MsoNormal">Thursday 6th March - 3 Days till Vogue.<br /></p><span lang="EN-GB">I’m writing this at work because, well just because really. It is my last day here and it feels like the last day of term before the summer holidays. My desk has been cleared of all my stuff and any minute I expect a giant bell to ring and tell me it’s time to go play in the sunshine. (Even though it is only 12.30 and cold outside) </span> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"><o:p></o:p>I spent most of last night packing. It turns out that my absolute bare and total minimum fills one huge bag the size of my desk that I can barely drag let alone lift, another large bag half the size and a rucksack. Somehow I now have to get this to the station, onto a train and home at the other end. I have said it before and I will say it again: all of my problems in life could be easily solved by a man with a wheelbarrow. Why oh why will someone not send me one? Just think about it, it’s the perfect answer; someone to carry all of your luggage, shopping, equipment and large bits of MDF around wherever you go. You can even sit in the wheelbarrow when you get tired. And all carbon free. I tell you people it’s the solution for the 21<sup>st</sup> Century.<span style=""> </span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"><o:p></o:p>I have never been one to pack light. The one time I tried it, it ended in disaster and I never shall again. This was the trip to <st1:state st="on"><st1:place st="on">New York</st1:place></st1:state> with uni a few years ago. As we were only going for a long weekend I figured I could get away with just a small hand luggage sized bag and packed accordingly with just a couple of t shirts, one extra jumper, and the usual socks and underwear. I remember standing waiting for the coach feeling incredibly smug as I watched my friends heave giant suitcases stuffed to bursting into the luggage compartment, and all of the boys (Most of whom had packed more than me) praising me on my economy. </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"><o:p></o:p><span style="font-size:100%;">The joke however was on me. I would have been fine had we not been caught in what the <st1:state st="on"><st1:place st="on">New York</st1:place></st1:state> newscasters were calling ‘Blizzard 06’. Wading through 4 foot high snow drifts my clothes took about 2 minutes to become soaking and my little trainers even less. With twenty minutes until our coach left on the last day, I had to dash into Macy’s and tried to buy some dry shoes. The lady in the shop must have thought I was mad:</span><br /><span style=""><br /> </span><span style=""> </span>“Which shoes do you have in a size 8?<br /><span style=""> </span>That’s European size 8. <span style=""> </span>No I don’t know what that is here.<br /><span style=""> </span>I don’t care which ones. Nice ones. Not those.<br /><span style=""> </span>How about these trainers? Ok, how about these? Well what <i style="">do</i> you have in an 8? <span style=""><br /></span> Well why not? How about in Brown? Black?<br /><span style=""> </span>I really don’t care, I just want some shoes. I’m in a hurry.<span style=""><br /></span> No I said not those. Oh go on then.<br /><i style=""> How</i> much?”<br /><o:p></o:p></span><span style=";font-family:";font-size:100%;" lang="EN-GB" ><br /></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style=";font-family:";font-size:100%;" lang="EN-GB" >Never again… If I have to push the wheelbarrow myself, never again. </span></p>Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-91064393208473984062008-03-05T02:59:00.000-08:002008-03-05T03:08:54.706-08:00Taxi<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgC1K-qrxCy7wRwDg1mZdUm_aMMbHMx0zoJzKapfOEXW5ywQEvkdc5ZaUbDDwSER6oHTMKmA2rhgcRjnwWlzrxMTH6KJBkhj2sPor-X_5qGBLrgWUFKrgw8Lgs16afoWMB0jkRuKQe9fMSZ/s1600-h/woman-cooking.JPG"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgC1K-qrxCy7wRwDg1mZdUm_aMMbHMx0zoJzKapfOEXW5ywQEvkdc5ZaUbDDwSER6oHTMKmA2rhgcRjnwWlzrxMTH6KJBkhj2sPor-X_5qGBLrgWUFKrgw8Lgs16afoWMB0jkRuKQe9fMSZ/s320/woman-cooking.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5174212341157887810" border="0" /></a><br /><p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"><span style="font-size:100%;">Wednesday 5th March - 4 Days till Vogue.</span><br /></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"><br />Nice to see the spirit of equality alive and well on the streets of Birmingham. Last night I went for an impromptu dinner with two friends. In the taxi on the way home I mentioned this fact to the taxi driver while making small talk. To this he replied “Ah well that’ll be because you young women can’t cook these days”, and proceeded to embark upon a tirade that was to last the entire way home. The subject of this lecture was ‘Women – why they are evil and should get back in the kitchen where they belong.’ </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"><o:p></o:p>He told me that no young women that he knew of could cook properly and actually used the words “If I put you in the kitchen you would make a terrible wife because you can’t cook.” (Bear in mind at this point that all I had said so far was that I had been out for dinner) He continued his discourse with “How can you people expect your poor husbands to go out to work all day and come home to find there is no dinner on the table? It’s disgusting.” He then told me that lots of his friends’ marriages had broken up solely, yes solely because the wife was a terrible cook, and that all women should be taught how to cook in school. <span style=""> </span><span style=""> </span><span style=""> </span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"><o:p></o:p>I did try to argue, but in the end I just sat back and let him get on with it until we arrived home. When a person has opinions like that I suspect there is little a silly little girl like me could do to change his mind, what with my head being all filled up with fluff and nail varnish and the like. He did however give me a discount off the taxi fare because I had said somewhat defensively and a little unwisely, that I could in fact cook. </span></p>Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-18609610810513042192008-02-29T10:43:00.000-08:002008-02-29T10:50:51.615-08:00Vogue<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjbRbaN7Q1c-NoZFfeEyiGUgQdK90IsC7XE9KNOhEzVrr5MlUqUzwNhBYGb7KomswxwAtnuqoRrneRztkMAGoxgvzXtTLBN3jamA8hCBCcbLqwcDjSbaR1oacfXwnTnLa4E0lWerUAC2Wka/s1600-h/vogue.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjbRbaN7Q1c-NoZFfeEyiGUgQdK90IsC7XE9KNOhEzVrr5MlUqUzwNhBYGb7KomswxwAtnuqoRrneRztkMAGoxgvzXtTLBN3jamA8hCBCcbLqwcDjSbaR1oacfXwnTnLa4E0lWerUAC2Wka/s320/vogue.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5172475378408448866" border="0" /></a><b><span style="font-size:16;"><span style="font-size:100%;"><br />Wednesday 28<sup>th</sup> February ‘08</span><o:p></o:p></span></b> <p class="MsoNormal"><b><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--><!--[endif]--> 10 Days till Vogue – Dare I call this the final countdown?<o:p></o:p></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--><!--[endif]--> As anyone who has even momentarily come into contact with me in the past few months will know, I am about to undertake what may well be the most exciting three weeks of my young life. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[endif]--> I first discovered Vogue magazine on holiday when I was 17. Trapped on a small boat with my family, miles from anywhere, let alone dry land, I picked up an old copy of my Step-Mother’s magazine and I have been hooked ever since. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--><!--[endif]--> I love Vogue - it’s one of my many naughty little secrets. The funny thing is that I have never met anyone else who did. Whenever my friends idly pick up a copy I have left lying around, most just take one look and go “ugh! It’s all adverts, what a waste of money.” I like the adverts though. It helps that I use them in my art, but I think they are miniature works of art in their own right, and so often overlooked. I like to look at all the lovely things that I might like to buy when I marry my billionaire husband and become a lady of leisure. And I like the fact that when I sit down with the latest Vogue and my Saturday morning coffee in a tasteful beige mug with a quote from Noel Coward on the side, I can believe for a moment that I am the sort of person who <i>can</i> afford the items within it’s thick, scented pages. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--><!--[endif]--> I consider myself to be above all things, a visual artist. However if I absolutely have to have a career then I want to work for Vogue. And if I don’t end up running the place, as is my plan, then I want to make the sets for all of their elaborate photo shoots. (I have since found out that they hire in individual artists to do that, but never mind) So in October last year, I wrote and asked for voluntary work experience, thinking that ‘hey, if you don’t ask you don’t get, right?’ And I got. Three weeks to be precise, starting on the 10<sup>th</sup> of March. To say I’m excited is an understatement so huge that I have sat here for ten minutes and cannot even think of a decent comparison. I know there are probably a hundred different reasons why I should not want to work for Vogue, but right now I can’t think of any of those either. Suffice to say the only thing that comes into my mind when I even try to think about it, is "Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!" Accompanied by metaphorical jumping up and down waving my arms in the air and grinning like a loon.<br /></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--><!--[endif]--> So I shall be quitting the soul-destroying office job I took in the pit of hell to pay my rent, and once more joining the great unemployed. Trouble is if the best-case scenario happens and the offer me a job, I’m gonna have to move out. I’m terrified actually. The funny thing is I’m not worried about being broke, moving or trying to impress people at Vogue. I’m worried about whether I should eat all the food in the freezer before I go. When should I do my laundry, because I’m leaving on the Friday and I usually do the washing on Sundays? Do I need to take a gift for the people I’m staying with? How am I going to get to the station? What the hell is an Oyster Card anyway? And what, oh what am I going to wear? Funny how the mind works isn’t it?</p><p class="MsoNormal">I will try to post while I am there because it might be quite interesting, but I'm not sure what kind of access to the internet (Or time to write) I will have, but we'll see.<br /></p><br /><p class="MsoNormal"></p><br /><p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p></p>Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-91984764563037525942008-02-14T11:55:00.000-08:002008-02-14T13:04:55.341-08:00That Special Time of Year<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjQQEJeNWR3gMUePlX1t3yGmiEnhJyLTMUw_klE9IoCYV_F93rowV3Mf6_J6BNk8vNZ8dONBn_vFr2S5SI4EoIDOS1-xGvjxHqE7O3vXAANCxRZ8YbwygPyitUXMRwQpv9yladrBsTM7OJx/s1600-h/Fluff.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjQQEJeNWR3gMUePlX1t3yGmiEnhJyLTMUw_klE9IoCYV_F93rowV3Mf6_J6BNk8vNZ8dONBn_vFr2S5SI4EoIDOS1-xGvjxHqE7O3vXAANCxRZ8YbwygPyitUXMRwQpv9yladrBsTM7OJx/s400/Fluff.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5166928376267869906" border="0" /></a><br /><p class="MsoNormal"><b><span style="font-size:16;"><br /></span></b></p><p class="MsoNormal"><b><span style="font-size:16;"><span style="font-size:100%;"><br />Thursday 14th February '08</span><br /><o:p></o:p></span></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Well folks it’s that time of year again. That’s right – it’s my cat’s birthday! So I would like to dedicate this post to my one true love, who will be nine today. (That’s 52 in kitty years). </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--><!--[endif]--> From the above statement you may well have guessed that I’m single. Terminally single. In fact, at the grand old age of 22 I have never not been single. I’m not sure why I’m telling you all this. You should know that I am normally pretty ok in my singleness, but I suppose it must be the ominous cloud of February 14<sup>th</sup> looming ominously over my head that’s making me reflect a bit. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--><!--[endif]--> I don’t honestly know why I am so very single. I guess I have just “not found the right man yet”. The interesting thing is, that rather than making me naïve and inexperienced when it comes to relationships, being permanently single has given me a unique perspective and considerable knowledge about the whole business. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--><!--[endif]--> My parents divorced when I was nine, and since then my Mum has had a succession of both long and short-term boyfriends. Mum and I share everything, and what I don’t now know about the over 40’s dating scene is frankly not worth knowing. I have read the books, the manuals and the magazines. I have seen my friends and family find partners, lose them and then get new ones. And I have been with them every step of the way, as confidante, mediator and shoulder to cry on. In fact, my shoulder has been cried on so often I am thinking of getting it laminated to prevent water damage. As the single one, I get told stuff. Too much stuff sometimes. I also get stuck in the middle more often than I’d like. Seeing things from a permanently detached and informed perspective means that I can often see things others can’t, (More often than not, where people always go wrong in relationships) and what I see is frankly, enough to put anyone off for life. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--><!--[endif]--> All of this adds up to give one quite high standards when it comes to potential mates. I also have an uncanny ability to predict precisely where a relationship will go before it has even started - a bad habit to get into I know, but very addictive. (And I am 99% accurate you know). This unfortunately, while being amusing, is not so much fun when it transfers to my own life. I cannot look at a man without identifying all of his faults, categorizing them and mentally calculating his potential relationship lifespan. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--><!--[endif]--> And here’s another thing. I don’t like people. I like to study them, but it’s in much the same way as a scientist studies a new and particularly virulent strain of bacteria. Meeting anyone on a random basis (Although I don’t include friends of friends etc in this assessment) that doesn’t automatically set off my moron-ometer is a challenge at the best of times. Finding someone who is not only nice, but attractive too is nigh on impossible. And before you judge me too harshly, just remember what my favourite comedian George Carlin once said; "Just think for a moment how stupid the average person is. And then realize that 50% of the population is even stupider."<br /></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--><!--[endif]--> Often people’s response to anyone who is perpetually single is that they are being unreasonable and should just lower their standards, but I have always found this a bizarre and particularly unhelpful piece of advice. Yes, certainly if the person in question is being totally unrealistic, and I agree that you should always keep an open mind, but why would anyone want to date someone they found annoying or unattractive? I’m all for compromise, but if you know that the person you are with is just barely tolerable and only a time-filler before Mr or Ms right comes along, it all just strikes me as being particularly unfair and cruel to the other party, and a pointless waste of everyone’s time. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--><!--[endif]--> The other day my housemate was reading out the lonely-hearts ads in the newspaper. We were laughing at how fantastically specific some of them are, but then it struck me; that is actually not a bad idea. Just think about it. Ultra-specific lonely-hearts ads sure would cut out a hell of a lot of time normally wasted actually getting to know someone. In fact, wouldn’t it be great to start up some sort of international database of people, each with detailed personal descriptions, photos and essential info displayed on their own page? They could include specific requirements as to their ideal partner and regular updates on their relationship status. They could also be grouped by their geographical region and interests etc. All you would have to do then is search for someone who matched. We could put it online. All we need is a name. Something to do with books perhaps? The People Book? Picture book? Facebook…</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">So anyway, in the spirit of the day, I present to you my own ultra-specific lonely-hearts ad for the ideal dream-man. (I did warn you I would be posting all of my bizarre and wandering thoughts here from now on. Don’t say you weren’t told). I would also be very interested to hear everyone else’s ads for their dream partners. Feel free to join in. Come on, it’ll be fun, like a scientific experiment almost. Mmm science…</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-weight: bold;"><br /></span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span><span style="color: rgb(204, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;">Lonely-hearts ad for the Ideal Man</span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--><!--[endif]--> Perfect man required for a very specific girl. This ideal man should be a stranger. He should not be one of those “such a nice blokes” my friends always set me up with. He should not wear Hawaiian shirts, sensible shoes or corduroy trousers. He should not have short hair or any interest in football whatsoever. So far as looks go, a combination of Johnny Depp, Russell Brand and Viggo Mortensen as he is in Lord of the Rings would do very nicely. <a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiRiWbZlfn8fGRbToCPOETUjYF6qkLVUlNT4iWo_7elj2O4ZSRZIsve_csfmLbcmjifMOo6WC0yZZnWAUnwP0VE0qpq7AaaIrMwda7PW4y-KB0Tnu7ClTHu2E2_hOI6kMffX-I3GxTyRTWw/s1600-h/6535jack_sparrow.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiRiWbZlfn8fGRbToCPOETUjYF6qkLVUlNT4iWo_7elj2O4ZSRZIsve_csfmLbcmjifMOo6WC0yZZnWAUnwP0VE0qpq7AaaIrMwda7PW4y-KB0Tnu7ClTHu2E2_hOI6kMffX-I3GxTyRTWw/s320/6535jack_sparrow.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5166930141499428610" border="0" /></a><br /></p> <p class="MsoNormal">The ideal man is a perfect gentleman, but also a perfect fiend. He could resemble a pirate, a highwayman or a renegade warrior (I’m not fussy) but he must retain a sense of honour and chivalry at all times. I believe the term we are looking for here is ‘lovable rogue.’ (You know, like Han Solo in Star Wars, that sort of thing). </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if <a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"></a>!supportEmptyParas]--><!--[endif]--> Above all he must by witty. And charming. And able to make me laugh. He must be an absolute individual, but not in any way ‘weird’ on purpose as some sort of statement. He will be intellectually superior to me (But no too much), and able to stand up to me when I get bossy. He will be rather infuriating actually. I will probably hate him at first.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--><!--[endif]--> This man must detest authority, but never actually do anything too illegal or anything that might harm others. Criminals and addicts are all very glamorous in a movie but much too inconvenient for real life. He must still project that bad-boy streak though. He will be wild, wicked and spontaneous – rock stars are always a good option. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--><!--[endif]--> The ideal man is like an armadillo – soft on the inside, hard on the outside. He must be sensitive and loving, but not a wet blanket. He should take charge when we go out on dates and carry stuff for me, but never try to be patronising or domineering anywhere outside the bedroom. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--><!--[endif]--> The ideal man should be strong, in every sense of the word. He should never whine, or expect to be entertained or hang on to my apron strings. He should be well adjusted and know his own mind. He should go to sleep directly after sex and should on no account ever want to discuss our <i>feelings</i>. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--><!--[endif]--> But he will love me. He will not be soppy, but he will make sure that I know it. He will not be needy but he will need me. He will never shout, get violent or sulk. He will be patient when I am being irrational and understanding when I am being hyper-rational. He will speak his mind and always let me know where I stand. He will never be rude or coarse or vulgar. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--><!--[endif]--> The ideal man should be able to wield a sword, or at least look as though he could. He would share my sense of humour, not mess up my nice tidy bedroom and should feel the same way about all of the usual important beliefs. Non-smokers and vegetarians preferred. 5ft 9”, slim to medium build and must have own house and car. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p><br />(Incidentally, if there is anyone out there who feels they match this ridiculous specification, please feel free to apply, I make really nice cakes).</p><p class="MsoNormal"><br /><span style=""> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p></p> <a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgiQZuF0_NgjxMLWVVBNSUI9u0Zc4HVNEYI5NeTpW6y3zoHzUP3BDHq6G1W5VDbp67j3djGXmpH7Z3LZeoy0zocsbutulmAuVxMPzEJE0f4QUvaHfCXfkJSqTGgxGpFT3e-P6-ydY1u-1gO/s1600-h/Heart+cake.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgiQZuF0_NgjxMLWVVBNSUI9u0Zc4HVNEYI5NeTpW6y3zoHzUP3BDHq6G1W5VDbp67j3djGXmpH7Z3LZeoy0zocsbutulmAuVxMPzEJE0f4QUvaHfCXfkJSqTGgxGpFT3e-P6-ydY1u-1gO/s320/Heart+cake.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5166930528046485266" border="0" /></a>Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-77015869785221798342008-01-17T12:34:00.000-08:002008-01-17T12:38:12.381-08:00My twisted anatomy<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:100%;"><b>Thursday 17<sup>th</sup> January<o:p></o:p></b></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <span style=";font-family:";font-size:100%;" >I have just finished day four of my new health kick. I have been so, so good. I have really made an effort to eat all those yucky vegetables and the smoothies have been a lovely thing indeed. I have been eating on average, nine portions of fruit and veg a day, taking all my vitamins and drinking plenty of water. I even did some yoga. And you know what? I feel terrible. I feel bloated, constipated and sick. I have spots, greasy hair and bloodshot eyes. What went wrong?</span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style=";font-family:";font-size:12;" ><br /></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style=";font-family:";font-size:12;" ><br /></span></p>Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-88233311842796540592008-01-17T12:30:00.000-08:002008-01-17T12:34:22.897-08:00The quest continues...<p class="MsoNormal"><b><span style="font-size:16;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Wednesday 16<sup>th</sup> January</span><o:p></o:p></span></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b><span style="font-size:16;"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p></span></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">This is what I ate today</span>.<b> <o:p></o:p></b></p> <p style="font-family: times new roman;" class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p></p> <p style="font-family: times new roman;" class="MsoNormal">Special K<br />Ham, lettuce and wholemeal bread sandwich<br />Bannana<br />Satsuma<br />Pro-biotic fig yoghurt<br />Slice of fruit cake<br />Smoothie – one banana, one apple, lots of strawberries, blueberries and orange juice<br />Veggie dish – secret family recipe, but one that involves peppers, mushrooms, celery, onions and wholewheat breadcrumbs.<br />A portion of baked beans<br />Well over 2 litres of water, 3 herbal teas and 2 normal teas.<br />Vitmins – cod liver oil, starflower oil, aloe vera</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p></p> <span style="">If I am not mistaken that makes for at least 8 or 9 portions of fruit and veg. Yay me.<br /><br /></span>Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-68017679952643815592008-01-17T12:24:00.000-08:002008-01-17T12:29:52.773-08:00Purest Green<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJZpLEqrbqwDM1b3c37Iwj1suSs5nXUm4qbRYwoAgoLKaigtGFgJMLj8MRhCN1-nhdDlO8Uw4CxyDD6f9sKN2oaMHQJkBnrrpYe3W0m2DmCX_yKiynufu3JEkEx-Tk2q0j-bSSab2elNd1/s1600-h/green.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJZpLEqrbqwDM1b3c37Iwj1suSs5nXUm4qbRYwoAgoLKaigtGFgJMLj8MRhCN1-nhdDlO8Uw4CxyDD6f9sKN2oaMHQJkBnrrpYe3W0m2DmCX_yKiynufu3JEkEx-Tk2q0j-bSSab2elNd1/s400/green.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5156545283155017410" border="0" /></a><br /> <p class="MsoNormal"><b><span style="font-size:16;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Friday 11<sup>th</sup> January ‘08</span><o:p></o:p></span></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p>Last night I watched the last half of Morgan Spurlock’s ‘Supersize Me’ on channel four. I had seen it twice before, but had reached that stage in the evening when the idea of actually getting up off of the sofa to go to bed just seems like so much effort that you will take any excuse to remain seated for another half hour. I watched as he talked about how, on his McDonalds diet, he felt depressed, ill and lethargic all of the time due to the lack of nutrients he was receiving, the only brief respite being found in the sugar rush of his next hamburger. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p>It occurred to me that the symptoms he described were pretty much how I feel all of the time. Now, I don’t think that I eat that badly at all. I certainly never eat fast food, unless you count the occasional fish and chips. But I will admit to eating hardly any fresh fruit or vegetables in the average day, let alone the recommended five, or even nine portions. Aside from a Satsuma and fruit smoothie for lunch and the inevitable potatoes with dinner, it’s a wonder I haven’t got scurvy. Much as pictures of shiny, glistening vegetables on television and in recipe books look appetising, I can’t say I really enjoy them in real life. (Although this is probably more due to my usual cooking method of boiling the hell out of anything green, then wandering off and forgetting about it until it is nearly cold, than any real dislike) Anyway, my point is, I refuse to go on living my life feeling the way I do – which is tired and cross most of the time – if it could all be cured by something as simple as a few vegetables. So I am resolved to eat more things that are green. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p>I also recently watched a Jamie Oliver program on what food does to your insides. I had always considered myself as being quite well informed, if not well behaved, on the issue of nutrition, but one thing Mr Oliver showed really stuck in my mind. He told us that bowl cancer is the second most common cancer in the UK, but up to 80% of the cases of bowl cancer could have been avoided altogether by better diet and exercise. He also said that if you eat only one or two portions of fruit and veg per day (As I usually do) you are asking for trouble.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p>For Christmas my Mother has bought me a smoothie maker. “This smoothie maker” I said, “will change my life. It will change my life because I have decided that it will.” </p> <p class="MsoNormal">Even though I eat little or no fruit, I love smoothies and spend a fortune on them. It’s not that I don’t like fruit – I love it, it’s just that I always seem to forget to eat the damn stuff. The fruit I really like is the exotic stuff which is so expensive, and somehow when faced with an apple or a packet of crisps, I always choose the latter. Smoothies, it seems could be the answer to all my problems. I could pack in four or five portions of fruit a day without even noticing. </p>Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-15962364799840033972008-01-15T11:57:00.000-08:002008-01-15T12:01:00.476-08:00Girls In Pearls<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgzYh_GdHhEOh7y2uNnykyHGfgPJ41oOnyykGlGxtDYqCEVbvQLQxAO6v6pxiCGPlRRC16bmiuDQMhL_p7NnB-vyw-3nuyrmFWmf4DueN8l57ZpxUYWvc2hDqjO5QL2VtJnSjBs32D_YjLI/s1600-h/housewife.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgzYh_GdHhEOh7y2uNnykyHGfgPJ41oOnyykGlGxtDYqCEVbvQLQxAO6v6pxiCGPlRRC16bmiuDQMhL_p7NnB-vyw-3nuyrmFWmf4DueN8l57ZpxUYWvc2hDqjO5QL2VtJnSjBs32D_YjLI/s400/housewife.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5155795661038010034" border="0" /></a><br /><p class="MsoNormal"><b><span style="font-size:16;"><span style="font-size:85%;">Monday 7<sup>th</sup> January 2008.</span><span style=""> </span></span><span style="font-size:85%;">69kg (Stomach bug</span><span style="font-size:85%;"> </span><span style="font-size:85%;">- Hurrah!)</span></b><span style="font-size:85%;"><b><o:p></o:p></b></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <!--[endif]--><span style="font-size:85%;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />On Boxing Day this year, as is my usual custom, I went to visit my paternal uncle, aunt and cousins at their house near Guildford in Surrey. The mechanics of this event cannot, I fear, be properly explained without a little prior knowledge of my family, but as I have little wish to discuss such tedious matters and I suspect you have as little wish to hear them, we will just have to make do and take it as read.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p>Upon arriving at the usual Christmas chaos of my Uncle’s house, standard procedure is (After greeting everyone) to sink into the nearest available chair and have a drink, which I got stuck into with gusto. Do you ever have those moments, when you are suddenly and unexpectedly afforded a moment of striking clarity? When, through no fault of your own, you undergo a brief out of body experience, and look down upon yourself as though you were a small insect clinging to the ceiling? Well I did just then, and what I observed in those brief seconds afforded to me was truly terrifying. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p>I saw myself, dressed in a sensible, flattering classic grey wool dress and pearls from House of Frasier, chatting amiably about London house prices with my Step-mother and her sister who were both wearing nearly identical dresses to me, but in black. We all had nice, shiny, brushed hair, opaque tights on and glasses of moderately expensive champagne in our hands, as we affectionately watched their children and my cousins play with a new Nintendo Wii. Somehow, overnight without realising it I had become a suburban housewife. And what’s more, I was <i>enjoying</i> it. Me, who has always lived in horror of such a fate, had mocked these sorts of women and gone out of my way to avoid becoming anything like them. What happened? I have rebelled, for god’s sake. Over the years I have gone to art school in Birmingham, worn a range of ridiculous and scruffy clothing, painted my nails black, been a goth, a punk, and a vegetarian, smoked pot, got a tattoo, and still managed to turn into my parents without even noticing it.<span style=""> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p>It started off so innocently: a love of vintage clothing and dissatisfaction with looking so unkempt all the time. I started the project and soon discovered that it was difficult to look authentically vintage while wearing jeans and trainers constantly. After uni ended and jeans were no longer strictly necessary, I took the opportunity to invest in some new clothes: my first real trousers, sensible shoes to match, a few silk blouses and some soft sweaters to complete the new casual, forties look I was experimenting with. I love the relaxed woollens and layers involved in this style. I don’t know whether it belongs to the forties, twenties or even to no specific era at all, but think Enid Blyton, bracing walks in the sea air, adventures and afternoon tea, and you are just about there. This was precisely how I eventually arrived at the grey woollen dress and pearls.<span style=""> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p>The trouble is with a lot of clothes from the twenties to the fifties, is that most of the everyday outfits, when it comes down to it, are just what you might call ‘simple and classic.’ It is really only the hair and accessories that distinguish them from present day clothing. This means that ball gowns and poodle skirts aside, you do not always need to buy the real thing to get the look. Unless you care about precise historical accuracy (And lets face it, who really does?) it is perfectly possible to put together a full vintage <i>style</i> outfit entirely from Debenhams. (And unless you have a very understanding employer and/or a lot of time and money on your hands it is usually appropriate to tone down the historical re-enactment on a day-to-day basis anyway). There, of course, lies the danger. On it’s own, without hats and gloves and lacquered curls, the same forties outfit that looked so lovely in a period film can look merely boring and frumpy in a suburban living room, and before you know it, you turn up somewhere to find out you are wearing the same thing as your Nan.<span style=""> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p>But never mind. I am young and this is one of the few times in my life when I will be able to get away with dressing like an old woman. At the moment dressing like I am sixty merely serves to highlight my youth, in the same way that wearing huge men’s shirts always make women look delicate and feminine. The minute I turn thirty I will no longer be able to do it as those sorts of clothes will just make me look older. I will have to spend hours getting outfits just right so that they neither make me look like a frump or mutton dressed as lamb. So I am going to enjoy it while I can. Rather severe, plain clothes have always suited me anyway. Due to the ‘bigness’ (See Mon 28<sup>th</sup> May) of my face and figure I have never really been one to carry off layers and ruffles and patterns. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p>So what should I have been wearing, if I was to be true to my age? Thinking about it, suitable options seem remarkably thin on the ground. I can’t honestly say I know what is fashionable at the moment, I suppose it’s probably some complicated creation involving leggings and neon. Most people I know seem to dress pretty normally on a day-to-day basis. If I asked what to wear they would probably just advise jeans and a pretty top, which is all very nice, but not exactly me. No, I will just have to accept my fate and resign myself to attempting to be the very chicest suburban yuppie I can be.</p>Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-71536794217461395362008-01-15T11:50:00.000-08:002008-01-15T11:57:37.033-08:00And What Have We Learnt?<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjnqx_dSCVvirflcnqXp6FxxOVxFrbjVh3ToKziV9LffyqC3bgG8IzFiK_MiQyh9_-qxI91dCbY0ihWOqn0-j5dHw7KVTZMNomXgY7EYxzwTkm5Go3E1IA3-Q-rAgGbfkIA1mGRpgeMnR5q/s1600-h/fireworks.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjnqx_dSCVvirflcnqXp6FxxOVxFrbjVh3ToKziV9LffyqC3bgG8IzFiK_MiQyh9_-qxI91dCbY0ihWOqn0-j5dHw7KVTZMNomXgY7EYxzwTkm5Go3E1IA3-Q-rAgGbfkIA1mGRpgeMnR5q/s400/fireworks.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5155794896533831330" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;"><br />Monday 31st December 2007<br />72kg</span><br /><br />Hello there. How are you dear reader? It really does seem an age since I last wrote here. I almost think I have forgotten how. I will explain, in my own sweet, sweet time I promise. So ends another year. And this project as a matter of fact, in its current form at least. I think I have just about exhausted the limited subject matter available to me, and frankly I’m bored of talking about fat all the time. There really are more important things in life. And what then, have I learnt during this project? Not much really. I have learnt that no matter what the incentive, I will probably never get around to losing those two stones, and even if I did, I don’t think it would necessarily make me any happier. I have learnt not to be too envious of others, as they probably feel just the same as I do about their bodies, and no matter how perfect someone may seem on the surface, there is no such thing as a perfect life.<br /><br />I have learnt the importance of smoke and mirrors – that all is never as it seems and therein lies the attraction. Lies are fascinating things. Illusion, mythology, and magic – they all serve to make the world a more charming place to live in. It is important to believe in the glossy magazine mythology of perfection, but not too deeply. Personally, I still like to imagine a world inhabited by beautiful, hedonistic models and rock stars, where champagne flows from the taps and the food is encrusted with diamonds because it is a pleasant fantasy. It lifts you up from the grime and the misery of daily life, and gives you something to dream about. It is only when you start believing in it utterly and coveting a life (and a body) that doesn’t exist that the dream can turn nasty.<br /><br />And what of Kate? What of my dreams of a better life? One thing I find interesting in retrospect is the fact that I found it necessary to give the vision of a ‘perfect me’ a separate name and identity. It was almost as if my young brain could not conceive of me ever being pretty or successful, so I just imagined someone else’s life instead. The existence of Kate as a definite entity meant that instead of working to improve my own life, and becoming happy with myself, I just ended up trying to run away – trying to transform myself into someone else, convinced that if I could just become this other person, then everything else would magically fall into place as well. Because Kate was thin, I should be thin, and if I could look like Kate, then maybe I would become her - a bad way to live if you ask me.<br /><br />That is probably why the fantasy person Kate always remained so two-dimensional in my mind. Because perfection is an illusion, once you see past the magic spell it is shattered. In order for Kate to develop a personality she would have to have flaws, that is what would make her human and lovable. And therein lies the irony. I wanted to be perfect, probably if I’m honest, so that people would like me. But who could ever love a truly perfect person? As Elizabeth Bennet remarks in the film of Pride and Prejudice, a truly accomplished (Read: perfect) woman would be “a fearsome thing to behold.” Maybe I have learnt something after all.<br /><br />So an end, an end to all this madness! And a new start for the New Year. I have decided to remain posting on this blog even though the giant quest for perfection is, for now, over. I will continue to write as I always have, only now I will no longer be restricting myself to the narrow parameters defined by myself at the beginning of this project. I shall disgorge all the sugar-fuelled ravings of my vile and lovely little mind and continue posting them up for all to see. Won’t that be nice?Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-35469429744911787942007-09-16T12:54:00.000-07:002007-09-16T13:10:12.587-07:00Deep Sea<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiixALq4-Rd_3I5C690bg86Rxzx8jf52I-Y8QCgM_e1adr8JidFqvFHIW-XPfFNpTJUIpxqrYV_UKaARareL5jh7bUKMcXB5mP-o-2MhuDpOa1TuvYfngyBLNkKyiL3YUVfHukigil476Bw/s1600-h/periphylla48_500.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiixALq4-Rd_3I5C690bg86Rxzx8jf52I-Y8QCgM_e1adr8JidFqvFHIW-XPfFNpTJUIpxqrYV_UKaARareL5jh7bUKMcXB5mP-o-2MhuDpOa1TuvYfngyBLNkKyiL3YUVfHukigil476Bw/s320/periphylla48_500.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5110895081290130898" border="0" /></a><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Sunday 9th September ‘07</span><br /><br />Continuing on my little rant on feminism, I was walking down a busy street the other day when I approached a group of three boys coming the other way. They must have been about 17ish and were clearly trouble. They swerved towards me as they drew closer, so much so that I was forced to dart out of their way and the middle one said loudly to his mates as we passed only inches away from each other, “Will you look at the tits on that thing!” Wow, just when you thought things were improving.<br /><br />This habit of men of referring to women as inanimate objects is not a new one, but it is something I am noticing more and more these days. It seems as though the more powerful women get in society the more some weak men feel the need to objectify us by referring to all woman as “it” and “that”, even to our faces. I don’t even know what that habit is called grammatically. ‘It’ is defined as a third-person neutral pronoun in the English language, but no-where can I find what it means to refer to a human as an object or animal. If I am to be insulted I would at least like to know how it is done.<br /> ~<br /><br />Despite this year being the wettest summer on record I have yet again come up against my annual nemesis, sunglasses. Now, don’t get me wrong, I love sunglasses. If it didn’t make me look like a prat I’d wear them all year round. No, the trouble is finding the sunglasses in the first place. I seem to spend my life on an eternal mission to find the perfect pair, and my room is a graveyard of broken attempts.<br /><br />I have often though it ironic actually when I look at Muslim women who are all covered up apart from their eyes, how they are actually displaying the most intimate and expressive part of their bodies. ‘The window to their souls.’ When I put on a pair of sunglasses I feel more anonymous and protected than if I’d shrouded my whole body in acres of billowing fabric. There is a definite reason celebrities wear them all the time. I love that no one can tell what I am thinking when I wear them, or even who I am really. I like way I can stare at people for hours with total impunity, and I love the instant aura or cool mystique they give you.<br /><br />Despite the coolness, there is of course, a more practical reason as to why I love my sunglasses so much, namely that my eyes are extremely sensitive to light. My Mother is the same, so I can only conclude that it’s just one of those things. According to the optician, it’s apparently something to do with being blue-eyed. Even on a dull winter’s day I find myself squinting at the light. I worry about it actually; I’m probably going to end up with huge wrinkles through spending my life with my face unconsciously screwed up like I’m trying to see in a howling snowstorm all the time. Only I the dark can I ever truly relax my eyes. I can see well in the dark, really well if I do say so myself. I love the dark actually. When I was young I used to practice finding my way around my house with my eyes closed just so i could navigate better in the dark. And for the past two years I have had my bedroom on the ground floor. When I wake in the night (As I do frequently) I like the feeling of prowling around alone in the darkness, while all of my housemates are sleeping upstairs, mistress of my own private kingdom. I used to be afraid of the dark when I was little, but once you realise that fear of the dark is merely fear of the unknown, fear of the monsters that could be lurking in the dark, that soon goes. That’s one of the things I hate about this city, the lack of darkness. I can’t sleep in this damn half-daylight they’ve got going on here twenty-four hours a day. I do worry sometimes it might be turning me mad. My current bedroom is on the ground floor of the house and some inconsiderate bastard has planted a lamppost directly opposite. When I first arrived I had to sew blackout fabric on to the backs of the curtains because my room was lit up as clear as day all through the night. Because of the odd curve of the bay window though, and the miserly amount of material the landlord has used on the curtains, there are gaping holes in my impenetrable wall of darkness through which the light still pours. There is nothing I can do about the top and bottom of the window, but I have spent most of this week dreaming up ingenious methods of fastening the curtains to the walls on either side. The current method on trial is Velcro superglued to the wall and sewn to the tops of the curtains. It’s not working.<br /><br />What would you be if you were an animal? What do you most resemble? I know what I would be. I would be one of those silent, amorphous creatures that lurk in the deepest, blackest corners of the ocean. And all alone down there, way down deep in the cold, inky darkness where no one could ever see, I would glow with a phosphorescent brilliance in all the colours of the rainbow.Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-55953268297297054622007-09-16T12:32:00.000-07:002007-09-16T12:53:09.365-07:00Post Feminism<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg0BKvRsvTXBEusSnPpMBvVNxcn7yPRtI7_ZvNjbHFZZrLTxBtHGbI2HdclkAexPicWJszM1xvG3UCFRPNMQ9k44BfG9QvfHpMZi62yYJ4-2SdmKD987Ifk87uxsrxCH_0E9CcrNI1b4N_g/s1600-h/von_trap_family_edelweiss_scene.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg0BKvRsvTXBEusSnPpMBvVNxcn7yPRtI7_ZvNjbHFZZrLTxBtHGbI2HdclkAexPicWJszM1xvG3UCFRPNMQ9k44BfG9QvfHpMZi62yYJ4-2SdmKD987Ifk87uxsrxCH_0E9CcrNI1b4N_g/s320/von_trap_family_edelweiss_scene.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5110888127738078626" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Thursday 19th July ‘07</span><br /><br />Ok now, here’s the big one. Post-feminism. I have been putting off addressing this for a while now, not least because it is such a vast topic I don’t know where to begin. The nature of this project however, demands that I deal with it sometime, so here we go. I’m not gong to waste time going over the entire history of feminism, if you want to know that I suggest you read a book, but I can’t ignore my own stance on the matter any longer. Nowadays it seems to be a dirty word to declare you are a feminist. Many of the guys I knew at uni would make hundreds of dreadful misogynist and anti-feminist jokes, ostensibly just to wind girls up. I can take a joke as much as the next person, but in the end they did it to the degree that it ceased to become funny and you started to wonder whether they were doing it to conceal some sort of deep seated problem with women in general.<br /><br />I myself have always been torn between two different attitudes to feminism. (Although I practically have two personalities anyway, so perhaps that’s not too surprising) There is, and always will be a part of me that is a militant feminist. I think the way women are still treated in this day and age is absolutely shocking. And while attitudes are not perfect in the West, they are nothing to the way women are treated in other parts of the world. It’s barbaric, and we often forget that in our assessment of how far we have progressed in our culture. This part of me is the part that wants a shining career. This is the part that lives in her jeans, cannot walk in heels and has a large panther tattooed across her back. She is modern, educated and can wield a power drill with aplomb. She shouts at the television, swears she will never have children and views men with a deep critical mistrust and something bordering between contempt and pity most of the time.<br /><br />But poking her beribboned head up from the depths of my personality there is another version of me. This me is still waiting for her handsome prince to come riding in on his noble steed and whisk her off to his castle where she could live out her days baking, sewing and tastefully decorating the battlements. This me secretly thinks she would be quite happy as a housewife so long as she could be wealthy. This me probably suffered from far too much Disney at a young age. This person likes pink. She likes to buy pretty, pointless things for the home and expresses all of her emotions through food. This is the part of me that squirms with pleasure whenever men wolf whistle at me on the street or pinch my bottom in a crowded nightclub, shouting down the outraged protests of my saner self with the argument of ‘well, at least they noticed me.’ This person, given the chance would live in Pleasantville forever and ever with four children, a dog, and some nice man to take care of her. I don’t know which part of me I am more ashamed of. I am deeply ashamed of my fifties self, it goes without saying, but that persona is more socially acceptable to admit to in public. Wrong, I know but there we are.<br /><br />Then of course we have post-feminism; an ideology that should, by rights appeal to my mixed up little brain. I have always taken the view that the problem with traditional feminism is that women end up denying their own femininity and turning themselves into men, and thus sending out the message that it is wrong to be comfortable being a woman. It is sad but true that men and women tend, as a generalisation, to be good at different tasks and so there should be no shame in portioning out the domestic roles accordingly, so long as each does an equal share. If I stayed at home to look after the children while my husband worked it would be only fair that many of the domestic chores also fell to me, as long as I received equal recognition for what I did. And therein of course, lies the problem. Staying at home and ‘keeping house’ is dull and exhausting work that never receives the same statues and praise that going out to work does. What is also not fair is the way women are made to feel guilty for choosing either a career or family and are now expected not only to take care of the children and the house, but to have successful high-powered careers as well. We are burning ourselves out and I still don’t see any reasonable solution to the problem unless society’s attitudes change.<br /><br />Last week the men of my acquaintance went to the pub to partake of few beers and the pub quiz. As it was clearly a lad’s night out, that left one of my female housemates and I at a loose end for the evening. The boys joked that we should stay in the kitchen and bake for them. We toyed with the idea of going out too, but eventually settled on that old favourite of staying in and watching the telly. About half way through the evening we got peckish and having nothing in the house, we decided to make some biscuits. Realising what we were in fact doing, we laughed and said it was ok because we were making the biscuits for ourselves and anyway, we were post-feminists and therefore comfortable with it. But what does that mean exactly? And does it even matter? When the boys returned from the pub we presented them with a pile of heart shaped cookies in a pink tin.<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2XK48mU5tW5IBB6Ft_T_MORmflEkDnZavowrll0pFYZ8q79Auvlr7G9EHQ0GPqw3So844msEZYsHf4raaEIvz1-gOUYI4MXvqK2qHsXJilrcpEcCNmQbhifJ7hDood861TDX63t7uilzN/s1600-h/43T969.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2XK48mU5tW5IBB6Ft_T_MORmflEkDnZavowrll0pFYZ8q79Auvlr7G9EHQ0GPqw3So844msEZYsHf4raaEIvz1-gOUYI4MXvqK2qHsXJilrcpEcCNmQbhifJ7hDood861TDX63t7uilzN/s320/43T969.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5110892186482173378" border="0" /></a><br />Another thing I have a problem with is the way that because we are all supposed to be enlightened post-feminists nowadays; young girls and even older women who should know better are acting like common sluts in public. Sexual liberation is all very well and good, but at the risk of sounding like a prude, if you don’t treat yourself with respect, how do you expect men to? All right, so you are pole dancing in a self-conscious, semi-ironic, post-feminist, kitsch way, but do the men drooling at your feet know that? Whatever your opinions on this subject are, I think we all have to agree that Playboy merchandise for little girls cannot be a good idea. It astounds me, actually. Have people just forgotten what Playboy is and what it stands for? It’s not liberation it’s vile. It’s sending out the impression that being a brainless piece of arm candy for lecherous old men is something to be aspired to. And I don’t care if this view is not the correct or cool one to have these days. I don’t know why I hate Playboy, I just do. I hate it and everything it stands for. I especially hate the way it has become seen as harmless fun. I don’t care if the women involved are intelligently exploiting the system or merely playing to their strengths or whatever, hasn’t anyone ever heard of sleeping with the enemy? Just because you know the symbolic ramifications of what you are doing when you put on a playboy t-shirt doesn’t make it any better, if anything it makes it worse. The trouble is, I don’t think most women even think about it at all any more. They are not doing it to be ironic, or to make some sort of post-feminist statement. They are simply buying these things because they are fashion items and they want to have them. So does that mean that our culture has degenerated once more to such a level where female exploitation has become so normal and the symbols of that exploitation so drained of their meaning through overuse and repetition, that women have become willing accomplices in their own oppression? “But what about post-feminism and freedom?” you might say. “What if there exists a particularly daft woman whose ultimate ambition is to become a playboy bunny? Isn’t that her choice?” It’s a very valid point, but I can’t help but think that a woman who feels that she can only be happy and successful in life through being the object of teenage boys’ and dirty old men’s wank fantasies has been very badly let down by society. And besides, just because I accept that there are such moronic people in the world and acknowledge their right to exist and express themselves in whatever way they see fit doesn’t mean I have to like it.<br /><br />The second weird thing I have noticed recently brings me on to the very sticky and unpleasant subject of unwanted hair. All those of a nervous disposition might well do to skip the following paragraph. Some things are better left undiscussed and believe me, it is as much as I can do to write this, but I’m confused and I want someone to help me with this. Over the past few months, I have had many varied and heated discussions with my girlfriends on this subject and I have noticed a worrying trend that seems to be going on. Now call me naïve if you want, but up until recently I had always been under the impression from, oh I don’t know; men, my mother, Jilly Cooper novels, that it was sufficient to keep oneself generally neat and tidy downstairs. I mean that’s why it’s called a bikini wax isn’t it? But on asking around it transpired that a lot of my girlfriends were horrified by this idea. For them it appears, everything must go. And I do mean everything. When I asked them why they feel like this, they all universally replied, “Well it’s what men want isn’t it?”<br /><br />And it’s not just women who seem to think this. A friend of mine has a mother who works in a sexual health clinic and she has reported that all the young girls these days that she sees are feel the same way. They are barely old enough to have pubic hair and then they wax or even shave it all off because they think that this will make them more desirable. I mean, everyone has their own particular preferences on matters such as this, (Personally I think the idea of total hairlessness is a bit creepy and much too pre-pubescent looking for my liking, but whatever floats your boat) however feeling you must look a certain way because men demand it can’t be good, especially at such a young age. And you know what the worst thing is? When my friend’s mum asks these girls why they think they have to look like that, do you know what they say? They say that that’s what the girls in men’s magazines look like. Anyway, I would like people’s opinions on this. I don’t know where everyone seems to be getting the idea that men demand that you shave completely, but I would like to know if it is, in fact true. I have certainly never met a man who expressed this desire. Am I right, and is this trend just a lot of needless pain, faff and itchy stubble, or am I missing something important here? Tell me.<br /><br />So far as myself goes, I am still undecided about the whole post-feminism thing. Is it ok for me to wear clothes that I think make me look good? Of course it is. Is it ok for me to wear clothes that make me look attractive to men? Of course. But is it right for me to consciously base my appearance on what men consider aesthetically pleasing? I don’t know. But it helps. That, my friends is the sad, sad truth underlying all of this; we all want someone to love us. Yes, it is better to have someone fall in love with you solely on the basis of your shining intellectual capabilities, but lets face it, when was the last time that actually happened? The only possible scenario in which that would work is if you had known the person for years first. And even then they have to find you at least slightly attractive. When was the last time you went into a club, scanned around the room and said to your mates “ooh, look at that person over there! They’re hideously ugly but I’m going to chat them up anyway because they might just have a lovely personality!”Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-61695429193921405462007-09-16T12:19:00.000-07:002007-09-16T12:32:14.469-07:00A kilo of gold glitter<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhXHK4FgZbhC7gukB_f0pQP22yufQQ3d3D1JzIiOsQkKqhKaX0fz4TglGYhaH1Gd1GnEs19aHZyfcu4Dp9hQww68eczVY7RePuRcULoMcthT_DF8NJyQ0cvo3hAPiGCDP5uqAgkOdl1yXfJ/s1600-h/Degree+Show+3+004.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhXHK4FgZbhC7gukB_f0pQP22yufQQ3d3D1JzIiOsQkKqhKaX0fz4TglGYhaH1Gd1GnEs19aHZyfcu4Dp9hQww68eczVY7RePuRcULoMcthT_DF8NJyQ0cvo3hAPiGCDP5uqAgkOdl1yXfJ/s200/Degree+Show+3+004.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5110887002456647058" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Sunday 24th June '07</span><br /><br />So that’s it. I am officially a real person and no longer a student. What do I say now when people ask what I do? “Um, nothing…” I sold two paintings. Does that make me an artist yet? I’m scared. This was never supposed to happen.<br /><br />At the private view for our degree show I reached what was I feel was my finest moment yet in terms of vintage fashion and this project. I wore a black lace bra and fifties style black pants, with the black lace underbust girdle, sheer black stockings and suspenders. Over that I wore a dark grey beaded twenties-style dress, black round toed heels and a vintage fifties glass bead shawl. Topping it all off were some ridiculous but very lovely head feathers.<br /><br />Now pay attention all you fresh budding young artists out there. When planning work for an exhibition, make sure it all adds to your own comfort and happiness. A friend of mine had to take a freezing cold bath naked in some liquid clay for several hours whilst being filmed. My work was an installation containing some paintings and a ‘performance’ which basically consisted of me sitting in a chair, dolled up to the nines, listening to David Bowie and drinking Moet. It was all about mythology and decadence and so forth, even I don’t really know any more, but the important thing is I got an excuse for an entire new outfit, some very expensive chocolates, five bottles of champagne, two haircuts and a kilo of gold glitter.<br /><br />In order to complete the look, I had my hair curled at the hairdresser as all my kind friend’s attempts with Carmen rollers and buckets of hairspray had only lasted an hour or so. It clearly needed scorching into shape if it was going to last a whole evening. While I was at it I had my usual four or five inches lopped off. This was my first real visit to a proper hairdresser. Before it had just been the little village salon or the lady down the road. It was quite scary looking actually: a shiny, monochrome palace of wonder, staffed by shiny, monochrome attendants. It all just struck me as a massive waste of time. The hairdressers flapped around, swapping places and disappearing into back rooms for hours assuring you that they would be ‘back in just a sec.’ My hair took about five minutes to actually cut, but they spent about an hour blow drying it, strand by tiny strand. I wanted to grab the hairdryer from the dopey girl and do it for her in the end. (My hair normally takes just a couple of minutes to dry) Although not exactly the style I had envisaged, by the time the hairdresser had finished though, I was enraptured. I wanted to keep it like that forever and ever. I looked like a Victorian doll, with perfect glossy blond ringlets.<br /><br />Getting off topic a little bit, but it is still vaguely relevant I think, is number 3622 on my list of general complaints and grievances against humankind. (Shortly to be published in a ten-volume format) It is the fact that no one ever believes a word I say. Now don’t take this the wrong way, I don’t mean to sound vain or churlish, but I have always felt vaguely resentful that things such as hair dye, straighteners and sunbeds were ever invented. Had I been born a hundred years ago my colouring would have been considered rather unusual and interesting. Nowadays people, if they think at all, just take one look and think ‘bimbo.’ A year or so ago I went on a trip to New York with uni. On the second morning, after observing me wash and dry my hair, the friends I was sharing a room with said to me “wow, your hair really is straight. All this time we just thought you were lying.” I think that says it all. It’s the same with my skin. I have naturally very fair skin and cannot so much as look at the sun without burning. I never sunbathe because I just burn and apart from anything else, it bores me to tears. But I like to be outside and busy during the holidays (Rain or shine) so I am left with no option when it is hot but to smother myself in factor 40, hat up and go chasing patches of shade all around the countryside. As a result of this, I often end up with a very nice unintentional tan and then have to put up with lectures from everyone I meet on the dangers of sunbathing. No one ever believes me. Even when I got my tattoo one of my housemates maintained for months that it must be a transfer. Just for the record, so we can have this absolutely straight once and for all, I would like to say that I have never dyed my hair. I have never straightened my hair. I have never used fake tan nor been on a sunbed, and yes, they are real.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjhWQQUi1kNxcS5aPKCHAw-MNji0Pa8glPUwYgEI7AzGhJNATCKaAU-mppJuN7NpmuLEPdgdYQsO0stsjB5ac0wVJHvYEieDmdwxBKlF8KrS20AMr6kKPOromBNMZYsJjm6A_ZtmScKCxfO/s1600-h/9213~Trailer-Trash-Posters.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjhWQQUi1kNxcS5aPKCHAw-MNji0Pa8glPUwYgEI7AzGhJNATCKaAU-mppJuN7NpmuLEPdgdYQsO0stsjB5ac0wVJHvYEieDmdwxBKlF8KrS20AMr6kKPOromBNMZYsJjm6A_ZtmScKCxfO/s320/9213~Trailer-Trash-Posters.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5110885409023780210" border="0" /></a><br /> <br />Remember what I said about being a jungle woman, about not wanting to sit indoors all day long? Well that brings me to yet another of my guilty little secrets. Trailer Trash: I love it. Not all trailer trash, admittedly. More the kind that probably only exists on catwalks, and not the English kind either. That’s far to chavvy. No, it’s a very specific look that appeals to me. I don’t know why exactly, I guess it’s because it seems a little exotic, and there is an element of freedom involved that really appeals to someone who grew up in middle class, conservative Sussex. I just love the idea of some feral fourteen-year-old hellcat, with a southern drawl, bleached hair and long, skinny legs, running wild around the countryside in tanned bare feet and denim hotpants. She would be a carefree, happy little slut and would wear pink lip-gloss and a contemptuous smile. She would cuss, smoke, cheat at cards and just generally do all the things I wish I had the guts to do. I know this is a fantasy born of far too much Hollywood and pulp fiction but I hope she does exist somewhere, I really do.Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-33487242862585159762007-06-07T13:38:00.000-07:002007-06-07T13:56:13.573-07:00Jungle Woman<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTqXz9pm6fEJ-7CHI-PKbHYtMb2jVgKhk6CZFbH1Hns7QTt9sp5Uv42e7yvxkt5JRjoOO5gm3aCffmHp8F34awU9AaoJSFRd7jPOvwInmMga6v039twHSKIGJL33RaJBNSt2Jfmd-dVY0X/s1600-h/Rima6ms.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTqXz9pm6fEJ-7CHI-PKbHYtMb2jVgKhk6CZFbH1Hns7QTt9sp5Uv42e7yvxkt5JRjoOO5gm3aCffmHp8F34awU9AaoJSFRd7jPOvwInmMga6v039twHSKIGJL33RaJBNSt2Jfmd-dVY0X/s320/Rima6ms.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5073428408387958754" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Monday 28th May '07</span><br /><br />I was in the pub a few nights ago talking to a friend from college. He is from Japan but has been in England for several years studying art. He mentioned that even though he has been here a while he just can’t fancy English girls. They don’t even register on his sexual radar. When questioned as to why he replied that they were all just too big, in every sense of the word. I guess he is right. By Western standards my friend is very small and slight. He makes me look like a hippo, and is dwarfed by the majority of English men I know. But in Japan he is well above average in terms of size and height. It must be strange, thinking about it; going from a country in which you are normal into what must seem like the land of the giants. And the difference is not only physical. English girls these days tend to be, well how can I put it; loud, brash and heavy drinkers. By stereotype Japanese girls are quiet, petite and refined.<br /><br />It’s a funny concept, bigness, and one that has so much more to it than mere weight. I have always been big, even as a child. Standing next to some of my more petite, elegant friends I often feel like some great big overblown peony that got unexpectedly planted next to a row of neat, pretty little pansies. I have always longed to be cool, elegant and chic, but my body and my personality just won’t let me. No matter what I wear or how hard I try I always look like I have been dragged through a hedge backwards. I am always ruffled, always flustered, always in a rush. I am weighed down by hundreds of bulky, mismatching layers, cardigans, umbrellas and bags of pointless stuff. I am usually dirty or covered in paint. I have always described my look as the cosmic bag lady, or just plain old lady. I am neat and I am hyper-organised but I like to be busy. I like to be doing a hundred things at once. I am bored easily and can be diverted easily, so I keep myself constantly occupied. I hate being indoors. I like grubbing around in the dirt and climbing things. Above all I detest authority, and there is just something about my body that will not be constrained either. Despite habitually buying clothes at least a size or two too big, I always seem to be bursting out of them. Ties come undone, tops ride up, trousers fall down and shoes fall off. I have a mass of hair that is impossible to tie up or do anything with, and even my features are big. Despite being a naturally shy person, everything about me and especially my clothes just screams for attention. I have a remarkable talent for sticking out like a sore thumb wherever I am, which while being interesting, is not always a fun or safe experience. But in spite of all this, I don’t think I would really want to be any different. I think my body just knows it wasn’t designed for sitting at a desk in a suit all day long. I would make a great wild jungle woman. Now where did I put that furry bikini?<br /><br />~<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjHcUpiXUak-QBOvALqrUjaWf8MlXS5RWSN_umep5hdrXqAmyWQiCELVWYJRab_eSlplDFcWVXdduciZvhGZAZxwd_3bXmcI7TVU1CwKfOxZqSU9yfVqYmYx54OmVgAh6WUcHNqB6gqvRZP/s1600-h/girdle.underbust.ct.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjHcUpiXUak-QBOvALqrUjaWf8MlXS5RWSN_umep5hdrXqAmyWQiCELVWYJRab_eSlplDFcWVXdduciZvhGZAZxwd_3bXmcI7TVU1CwKfOxZqSU9yfVqYmYx54OmVgAh6WUcHNqB6gqvRZP/s320/girdle.underbust.ct.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5073428597366519794" border="0" /></a> In other news, I finally went ahead and bought something from the lovely lingerie website. It is a full fifties underbust girdle by an American company called Rago. (The picture shows a white one but mine is black)It looks terrifying but is weirdly sexy on, although I haven’t had a male opinion on this yet. It does wonders for my figure; I look about two stone smaller. I’m not sure what would happen if I were ever to get into an intimate situation while wearing it though. I suppose it’s like wearing a padded bra, but in reverse. What would a man do when you remove it and he discovers you are a good deal fatter than he thought? I suppose in the olden days you would exit the room to slip into something more comfortable (Or be married anyway before you even thought about getting into a situation like that) and that way he probably wouldn’t notice, but surely he couldn’t help but notice if he was to pull down the zip and you were to splurge everywhere. It’s worth some consideration I feel.Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-65463932347563844312007-05-13T14:31:00.000-07:002007-05-13T15:14:34.514-07:00The primeval male and bin bag porn<span style="font-weight: bold;"><br />Saturday 12th May ‘07</span><br /><br />Last night I was walking to my friends’ house at 6 in the evening. It is only a short walk but our area is not the safest in the world and there are always an inordinate amount of creepy men just sitting in parked cars at all hours of the day and night and gangs of kids who shout lewd comments. If it is late I usually prevail upon my very nice and understanding friends to walk me home, but as it was light and still technically daytime, I thought I’d be pretty safe from the creepiness. As I walked along I passed a parked car with two men in it. I had gone a few steps beyond it when one of the men opened the door and leant out. ‘Hey fatty!’ he shouted after me. I just ignored him and carried on as he continued to shout it all the way down the road, but it made me angry. He wasn’t just some stupid kid; he was in his thirties at least and should know better. I know I am no sylph, but I am hardly morbidly obese. You would think that in the whole of Birmingham you could find a fatter person to taunt. What is wrong with people? Have they nothing better to do?<br /><br />~<br /><br />Just before the Easter holidays I finally showed this project to a few people. (It also exists in book form, with lots of pretty pictures) In the book were four photos of me in my underwear, taken at the beginning of the project as sort of ‘before’ photos. I had no make-up on and was trying to look as fat and frumpy as possible - the idea being of course, that you were to be wowed with the ‘after’ photos at the end, which are as yet not taken. Now, firstly I gave the book to a couple to read, one after the other. I handed over the book without a second thought to my female friend, but then I was suddenly struck with the thought ‘oh god, I can’t let her boyfriend see those, he’s a boy,’ and I made my friend fasten those two pages together with a paper clip. Now I’ve known the gentleman in question for a while, he is good friend and I am pretty sure he has seen me at about the worst I can look on many an occasion, so why then, couldn’t I let him see these pictures? I’ll tell you why. Because I was in my underwear, and <span style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(255, 0, 0);">‘you mustn’t let boys see you in your underwear’</span><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);">. </span>Ridiculous isn’t it?<br /><br />It is even more illogical when you think that if anything, showing pictures like that to girl is far more dangerous than showing them to a man. A man would just look at them, think ‘oh, right’ and turn the page. A girl is going to compare and criticise. A girl will see your cellulite, whereas I don’t think a man really would. And in our twenties, shouldn’t we be beyond worrying about a boy seeing you in your underwear? I’m quite happy to wear a bikini on the beach, and there really is no difference. Although I don’t at the moment, I have lived with guys for two years. I even have a brother for god’s sake. There was never any question of inappropriate thoughts ever entering their heads, so why was I totally comfortable in all states of undress in front of my female housemates, but would’ve rather died than let the guys see me like that?<br /><br />All I can conclude is that these thoughts must be so drummed into us at school and whatever that we just think them automatically now. We are perfectly happy to let strange men see us totally naked if we’re going to sleep with them, but we won’t let our closest friends see us in our bra and pants. It’s so silly. I don’t know, but if I was a guy I reckon I’d be pretty insulted. Or is it just ingrained in our culture? Is it right to maintain modesty at all times, even in defiance of all logic? Why can’t we ever seem to get past sex? And does everyone feel the same way? So many questions... Opinions anyone?<br /><br />~<br /><br />After my friends had read the project, I asked them for their opinions. One interesting point of view was one I had never even considered before. It came from a friend whom I have always considered to be extremely attractive in an elegant, understated way. She is of average height, with soft, brown curly hair, blue eyes and fair skin. She is also very slender. She can wear all the clothes that I can’t, and I have to confess that whenever I see her in leggings and one of her many mini dresses I am consumed with bright green glowing envy. ‘Damn her and her perfect legs!’ is my usual automatic response to anyone with a figure I covet. I think that these girls must be happy and that if they are not then they are just being neurotic, but the other day I heard the other side of the story for the first time. Well that’s not quite true, lets say I have heard it before, but I had never really believed it until now.<br /><br />Now this particular friend, let us for now call her Kitty, is slender. But like so many slender girls, and certainly all the skinny models we aspire to, she has not got a very large chest. But her size suits her. If she did have huge breasts it would look weird and out of proportion. In the past I have always had a low tolerance level for friends who complained about their lack of cleavage. ‘If you are slim, let alone slim and pretty’ I thought, ‘then you should just shut up and stop complaining. God gave us fatties big boobs as compensation for not looking like you do.’ I know this is an incredibly narrow-minded and selfish thought, but I am human, and I defy anyone to say that they have never secretly thought similar mean things. Talking to Kitty however, was an education. She said that she identified a lot with most of the things I had written, however in her case, it was all in reverse. Where I worried about being too fat, she worried about being too skinny. Where I complained that I was never taken to be anything more than a sexual object, she complained that she was never taken to be one in the first place.<br /><br />It is a well-known fact that you should always try to emphasise your waist. Men are apparently attracted to hourglass figures because the smaller your waist is in relation to your hips and chest, the more fertile you are likely to be. This is because pre-pubescent girls are yet to acquire hips and boobs, and post-menopausal women put on weight around the middle. In cave man terms, we seek out partners who will be the most fertile and healthy. Therefore, being too fat gets you mistaken (somewhere in the primeval male unconscious) for being too old. But it works the other way around too. Being too thin gets you mistaken for being too young. Kitty gets this all the time. While women may think she is enviable, sexy and stylish, this apparently counts for nothing with men. They have their own criteria. She tells me that she often feels invisible to men. They treat her like a little girl – patronisingly, maybe fondly, but she never gets to feel like sexual temptress. She said she envied the power women with large breasts and hourglass figures have over men. She envies the choice we have of whether to be attractive or not by removing a cardigan and the ability we have to turn the frumpiest of clothes into something potentially sexy. Kitty could wear a bin bag and make it look hip and stylish, whereas I could wear a bin bag and turn it into porn.<br /><br />The other problem that skinny girls face is that unlike larger girls, they get no sympathy when they complain or say they are unhappy with their bodies because people like me never really believe them or think they should just be quiet and be grateful. I have to admit, I would rather be too fat than too thin, because at least I can lose weight. And being a little overweight often endears you to other girls. It’s like being in some sort of special club. We can all sit around giggling and eating cake and happily moaning that we are too fat. It’s sort of a hobby. It’s automatic, and like the happy English pastime of complaining about the weather, complaining about your body is a good female bonding activity. It’s a way of saying ‘yes, I too am not perfect. I am no threat to you. In fact, I understand your plight and sympathise’. Which is something everyone wants to hear.<br /><br />I guess we all just want what we can’t have, but I have to say, Kitty has a point. She also makes me feel a hell of a lot better about myself. The other night I was dragged out to a club against my will. I thought, ‘oh it’s ok, I’ll just wear the black strapless dress, that’ll do the talking for me.’ It is very nice to be able to say that, whatever that might do to the cause of feminism. On the other hand, it makes me feel just a teensy bit sad. Here we are, all of us feeling bad about our bodies, each of us living in our own private hell, envying others and thinking that they at least must be feeling happy. Logic would say that if that is the case, why can’t we all just accept that everyone hates at least one part of their bodies and get over it, but I think by now we have established that this is never going to be the case. That is why I decided to make this project into a blog actually. I have now spoken to quite a few normal, attractive, only mildly insane friends about this and we all feel the same in one way or another. If we can all talk to each other about it then maybe we can go some way towards feeling better. I know I do.Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-28662761216976976342007-05-10T15:00:00.000-07:002007-05-10T15:01:20.257-07:00Square One<span style="font-weight:bold;">Monday 30th April ‘07</span><br />Last night I watched yet another fat program while eating a big tub of ice cream. You’d think I would have better things to do with my time. <br />I must make some more excuses now. As is always the way, after months of cosy hibernation I suddenly acquired a life out of the blue at around the beginning of March. It seemed as though everything (Good stuff and bad) all seemed to happen at once – both at work and play. As a consequence, after living on cider and pork scratchings at the pub for about two weeks solid just before Easter, I was a physical and emotional wreck. The irony of this is that I actually lost a lot of weight, all of which I then proceeded to put back on over the Easter holidays. So now I guess I am just about returning to normal, back at square one.Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-73608995037762736252007-05-10T14:54:00.000-07:002007-05-10T14:59:28.098-07:00Size 0 (I know, I'm sick of it too, but it had to be in here sooner or later)<span style="font-weight: bold;">Monday 23rd April</span><br /><br />Last night I watched yet another program on the size 0 debate. This time, two journalists who were both a size 12 attempted to get down to a size 00 in six weeks. Yes, you heard me correctly, double zero. That’s a UK size 2. Not only content with fitting into the clothes of a ten year old, these women are now fitting into clothes a six year old could wear. Where, precisely, is this going to end? The point of this, as with all the other similar programs I have seen is to show the awfulness of dieting and eating disorders etc, etc. (Which it doesn’t) But on the official website for this program, right above the official blurb about this ‘hard-hitting’ program’s exposé of the horrors of dieting, is a whole string of weight-loss ads. Great.<br /><br />Watching programs like this I always have mixed feelings. I am addicted to them for a start, although mostly this is because of the freak show element, I suspect. On one hand they make me feel great – “oh, so dieting is awful and I am a normal size, yay lets have some cake!” But on the other hand I have to confess something awful. Something I never thought I would ever have to say. I envy them. I think they look, if not good then not too bad. I’m surprised they don’t look thinner, and I look at the diets they do and think, hmmm…maybe.<br /><br />I know, I know. That makes me seriously fucked up, right? But think about it. There is a twisted logic somewhere in there. Anorexia works. Horrible though it may be, you never see a fat anorexic. When I was younger (About 14 or so) I actually tried to catch anorexia, as if it was some kind of virus. I started skipping lunch and throwing away food in the hope that somehow, if I could just get anorexic for a few months, I would lose weight. (Thankfully, I didn’t succeed) Then I figured I could just shake it off, like you would a bad cold and everything would be fine again. Don’t you just love how invincible you feel when you are young? I guess now you’re all going to think I’m completely mental and eligible for some sort of psychiatric help, but it was just an adolescent phase that I am well over, I promise. And you know what? I bet there are more ‘normal’ girls than you’d think out there who would identify with me, those journalists for example. I am noticing a suspicious amount of these programs around and although they maintain that they do it out of journalistic dedication etc, etc, there has to be a tiny part of them, on whatever level that secretly wants it. You would have to in order to agree to it in the first place. If I had any, I would put money on it.<br /><br />I feel a little shamed actually. Here are these journalists putting themselves through all sorts of physical and mental trauma for the cause of their art, and what have I done? I have not exactly been extreme in my weight-loss attempts. In fact I have not lost any weight at all, nor have I been on anything remotely approaching a diet. All I've done is whinged about how I have not done it yet. All this shows if anything is my extreme lack of willpower. Although very probably that’s a good thing.<br /><br />I also found a very interesting article on vanity sizing by Nick Afka Thomas for the Guardian (Thursday August 10th ’06). Here is an excerpt.<br /><br /><span style="font-style: italic;">“What is particularly frustrating is that size 0 is clearly a marketing concept. Over the years, vanity sizing has ensured that standardised clothing measurements have become less reliable. The shopper who finds that she can fit into a "smaller" size is more likely to buy the dress, even if it is not actually smaller but has merely been labelled as such.”<br />“This particularly affects the very smallest dress sizes, where the frightening competition to be ever thinner is at its peak. As a result, the gap between normal women and super-waifs appears to be widening. But this is an example of the numbers being trusted, without being questioned.”<br />“Are women who are a so-called size 0 really 12 sizes smaller than a size 12? Size 12 (or American size 10) is roughly designed around three measurements: bust 35in, waist 28in, hips 38in. And then, for every one that you remove from the size, you should remove one inch from each of the measurements. Therefore an American size 0 would have a 25in bust, an 18in waist and 28in hips. A five foot tall, corseted Victorian might just about have a waist that size. But for most women nowadays, it would be tantamount to death.”<br />“Size 0 is a misuse of numbers. It does not exist, nor should it. The British representative of size 0 is Posh Beckham, and there have been recent reports about her 23in waist. This would make her an American size 5, British size 7; not a size 0. Misnumbering her size sets a new unattainable standard.”<br /><br /></span>Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-39990183360880748742007-04-29T15:17:00.000-07:002007-04-29T15:19:11.830-07:00One Year On<span style="font-weight:bold;">Friday 6th April '07. 71kg – Now I’m really confused</span><br /><br />It has been a year since I started this project. Wow, when you say it like that… Actually, I’m slightly disappointed that I have only managed 21 pages; somehow it doesn’t seem that much for a whole year. But it’s probably a good thing. As this is purely an account of events and thoughts relating to the project it would be a bit worrying if it had run to three volumes. Also (Surprise, surprise) I have not lost any weight. When I started this project I told everyone that its point was to show the difficulty involved in losing weight and the impossibility of becoming perfect, but who am I kidding? I wanted to become perfect. I wanted to become Kate. I knew I never would - I know me far too well for that - but still I feel just a little sad. Because of this, and because of entreaties from my friends who have read this, I have decided not to end it here, as was my original intention. I have even turned it into a blog. Isn't that nice? Besides, I am starting to grow quite attached to this little diary of mine.Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-24363091567670959092007-04-29T14:30:00.000-07:002007-04-29T15:29:51.859-07:00Accessories<span style="font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Sunday 25th March '07. I don’t want to know. Probably about 40 stone by now.</span></span><br /><br />The other day I went out to see a friend and his band play guitar in a pub after uni. Knowing this in advance, I wore a low cut brown dress over jeans and trainers and shoved some accessories in my pocket for later. During the day, stripped of all jewellery and with my hair tied up I chatted to a (male) friend in the workshop. Before going out that evening I donned some long beads, earrings and a hairband and re-applied my make-up in the loos at uni. When I got to the pub my friend looked at me in surprise. “Have you been wearing that all day?” he asked, clearly puzzled.<br /><br />When I had read in magazines about the awesome power of accessories I had always laughed to myself. As if anyone would be fooled into thinking you were wearing a different outfit purely because you’d changed your necklace. But it would appear that it really does work. Letting you hair down and putting jewellery on really does change your entire look. I have never been all that interested in accessories before. I could never justify buying them, and they all seemed so pointless but now I’m not so sure. I have always just done the opposite of the given advice; I wear the same jewellery every day and just change my clothes.<br /><br />The new version of Northhanger Abbey is on tonight. My god I want to live in a Jane Austen novel. Now there are some flattering clothes for you: in under the bust and then poof! And so very, very pretty. Crinolines are another fantastic invention; “No, I haven’t got a huge arse, it’s just the dress.” I have to go corset shopping this week actually. Can’t wait. It’s a cruel twist of fate that the only clothes that really thoroughly suit me are only suitable for the eighteenth century. Or possibly porn movies. Now, if you will excuse me. I have an important appointment with some ice cream…Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-385246854782858062007-04-29T14:10:00.000-07:002007-04-29T15:29:37.629-07:00Pirates and Pistachios<span style="font-weight: bold;">Wednesday 14th March '07<br /></span><br />I have just eaten a slice of cake and half a tub of pistachio ice cream. Then I went on the exercise bike for half an hour. Pointless, pointless…<br /><br />I was talking to a friend the other day who told me that she’d been speaking to someone I’d met once over the summer. This girl apparently mentioned that she really liked what I had been wearing, (My red 1954 dress and stockings) and remarked that I must have a lot of self-confidence to do that. I laughed and said ‘or no confidence at all’ as for me, this whole project has contained a distinct element of cowardice. This sounds self-contradictory I know, but although my attire attracts attention, it is more like a disguise for me than anything else. It is dressing up, transforming myself into someone else and hiding away from the world. No one gets to see me, uncut as it were, and when I am pretending to be someone else, in a roundabout way it allows me the confidence to be more myself. I have always been very strong minded, and have always worn exactly what I want to regardless of what people thought, but that is a different kind of confidence, more like pig headedness in my case actually. I wonder whether this element of dressing up applies to all fashion. People say we use our clothes to express who we are, but sometimes I think it has more to do with expressing who we want to be, which is a very different thing.<br /><br />~<br /><br />My approach to clothes has always been to buy one or two expensive, good quality items and then wear them to death rather than buying one hundred in Primark and having them fall apart after one wash. Not only does it work out cheaper in the long run, it is ethically sound and better for the environment. Recently however, it seems as if my entire wardrobe is falling to bits. I have holes in just about everything, especially my coat. Now this coat is my pride and joy. My mum bought it for me last September from my favourite shop Noa Noa and it cost £125. It is by far the most expensive item of clothing I own and probably ever have owned. It reminds me of a sort of highwayman’s coat, or a pirate’s coat, (despite the fact that it is eau de nil) with detailed edging and a flared back. Not really owning another wearable coat I have thus worn it to death. Despite my best efforts at keeping it nice, it has been through the wars somewhat. Before Christmas my drunk friend even decided to jump in a few muddy puddles, showering me with black, oily filth and prompting me to get it dry cleaned. This ruined the diamante brocade edging, leaving me with about 30 new diamantes to sew on. This week I have noticed two large worn patches on the back, which are rapidly becoming holes. I’m not sure how they got there, but they are definitely going to need mending. On reflection though, I almost like this new, ragged look. It is somehow more piratey, even more decadent looking. Maybe this could start a whole new fashion trend, grunge for the uber rich – get some nice clothes and ruin them.<br /><br />~<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiMsR0ZAUBAkqnty9oydsyguLJE1m3xvX-V2FhXGj7EFC6xufjntWfKf4aXkvlvq9B77hGmugf-wlQi30efojFiueYcoJiFHRyL3dUOHKXbBbpSd_Hzm5U7S3tiGDDdWyNUqjwibDl2VOMn/s1600-h/advancedresswithjacket.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiMsR0ZAUBAkqnty9oydsyguLJE1m3xvX-V2FhXGj7EFC6xufjntWfKf4aXkvlvq9B77hGmugf-wlQi30efojFiueYcoJiFHRyL3dUOHKXbBbpSd_Hzm5U7S3tiGDDdWyNUqjwibDl2VOMn/s320/advancedresswithjacket.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5058963696676567154" border="0" /></a><span style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(0, 153, 0);">Fifties patterns - tight waist and full skirt</span><br /><br /><br /><br />A while ago I went to visit a friend in London and she took me to this huge vintage warehouse. I thought I’d died and gone to heaven. Amongst my many other purchases I bought two old fashioned hats that sit on the back of your head. I was however, at a loss as to how to keep them there. Elastic looked silly and hurts your chin anyway, so I asked my Nan. She informed me that hatpins really are the only way. You get you hair into a chignon and stab it through with a pin. This started me on a three month long search for hatpins, which was only resolved a few weeks ago when I found some in an antique shop. I still haven’t tried them yet. To be honest, I haven’t been dressing up much at all recently. Of course it has been the very depths of winter, which is quite enough to put anyone off, and I have been painting, but dare I say I am a little bored of it? I also love my new twenties style tops and beads that I got in the January sales so much I can’t bear to be parted from them. I am so confused as to what looks best though. All the magazine and tv advice is to go for tight waists and full skirts if you have my figure, but my mum says that fifties style clothes make me look really fat, whereas the twenties ones (Usually a huge mistake for larger girls) look slimming.<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj7398PmFp87NWoEhVnpvAfmlHeFeH_-umBrfhPSOeFk-3jTa89oHGnint5W0aGBl1IlDeS-5n7B1_QMzmgHRjQPKRw2OpkU0n16XY1liMNVmdeUDfGznV01GVWp1O4WWL82vVhv2R9xkel/s1600-h/1920edbwfp01s1.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj7398PmFp87NWoEhVnpvAfmlHeFeH_-umBrfhPSOeFk-3jTa89oHGnint5W0aGBl1IlDeS-5n7B1_QMzmgHRjQPKRw2OpkU0n16XY1liMNVmdeUDfGznV01GVWp1O4WWL82vVhv2R9xkel/s320/1920edbwfp01s1.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5058963941489703042" border="0" /></a><br />Problems, problems. I am also very aware how trivial this all sounds, and it is. I feel like a traitor to intelligent women everywhere. It is starting to take over my life though. I have always been treading a very fine line where appearances were concerned, and now I think this has pushed me over the edge. I am odd really, I have always been obsessed with fashion and very concerned with how I look but have never actually done anything about it, and was quite content to look like a tramp for most of my life. Now I am actually being forced to be proactive I am getting addicted. Maybe I am just making up for all those years spent wearing leggings…<br /><br /><span style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(0, 153, 0);">Twenties dress - dropped waist and flat chest</span>Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-84254403644785745352007-04-29T13:15:00.000-07:002007-04-29T15:29:25.475-07:00Cats, Comfort and Calories<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg-E_MuKxhb831Axo8FoaugA6qy-hI6SHSDgSccTeezodTYPzMxdZRtGa_LbnHL0Pfe-DZ-kWjbcgdYMChqu-qm-ig1JH9z5_T86RTn6_SrROcbPJj1WrR44NsYdTHnCG8qb1FMPNuKzR7Q/s1600-h/pink_donut.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg-E_MuKxhb831Axo8FoaugA6qy-hI6SHSDgSccTeezodTYPzMxdZRtGa_LbnHL0Pfe-DZ-kWjbcgdYMChqu-qm-ig1JH9z5_T86RTn6_SrROcbPJj1WrR44NsYdTHnCG8qb1FMPNuKzR7Q/s320/pink_donut.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5058956618570463314" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Tuesday 13th March '07. 73kg (Mis-read the scales last time, still lighter than when I began though!)</span><br /><br />It’s funny isn’t it, writing stuff down? I never intended for this to become a diary, never intended for it to get personal, but the more I write here, the more I feel the increasing urge to pour out my heart to it. I look back over the previous entries and I am not best pleased with the style, it seems amateurish to me, but I guess that’s what you get with a diary, just a continuous line of thoughts. As you have probably guessed I have not been feeling myself of late. I have been feeling a bit low recently and without wishing to sound melodramatic; in times of need food is my first port of call. It’s a funny thing, comfort eating. If anything the guilt associated with doing it just makes you feel worse. I guess it all stems from childishly equating food with love, and craving the cheap sugar rush I get from my kind of comfort eating. The trouble is, once you then get into a pattern of eating lots of nice stuff for a day or so, it is hard to break out of it, as I am now finding out. Right now I am feeling fat and frumpy and just downright ugly. Cramming my face with chocolate-based products is not going to help matters but diet and exercise is the last thing you feel like doing when you’re low. Tricky, tricky…<br /><br />~<br /><br />Despite my current (And momentary, I promise) lapse, I have actually been doing really well recently. I am trying to eat better and am even keeping a food diary. It’s amazing actually. I always thought I was pretty much on top of my daily food intake, and couldn’t see the point in writing it down, but it really does make a difference. I am highlighting any bad food I eat in red, and have been astonished to find that even when I think I have been eating really, really well, I still haven’t had a single day without any red in it. So far this hasn’t actually prompted me not to eat the naughty items, but it does make me feel bad about it afterwards, which is something I have never done. I’m not sure whether this is a good thing or not, but still, baby steps.<br /><br />In addition the food diary I have also been trying to do half an hour a day on the dreaded exercise bike. Unless I am going out or am really busy that is. Half an hour is exactly 300 calories, but instead of uplifting me, I just find that demoralising. Ever tried counting calories? 350 constitutes your average healthy sandwich. It is also a pint of cider. Considering that I will generally consume about 5 of these (Pints, not sandwiches) on an average night out, it’s no wonder I have been putting on weight. Despite the exercise, I am not losing it either. Pounding away on the bike the other night, I just couldn’t help but think, wouldn’t it be easier if I just skipped lunch instead of going to all this effort? That can’t be a good thing. But when something like a fat-free yoghurt or a healthy oat bar is 100 calories, in order to lose weight, you’d have to eat practically nothing. (Which judging by my food diary, is something that I would find impossible)<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhYZxatEOK216KdVcEntrTSEh2GRHXOPjlbfCHr5WfWJmY9-t2Dw6udtgHgEluY3XeVCvekKWNyXHT_1mo0wrLs2QhELQk7vmhuHW18oyIr2GIWd4FZZbeG9LsOdcql-IAaSBthtsqthMco/s1600-h/cat-lady.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhYZxatEOK216KdVcEntrTSEh2GRHXOPjlbfCHr5WfWJmY9-t2Dw6udtgHgEluY3XeVCvekKWNyXHT_1mo0wrLs2QhELQk7vmhuHW18oyIr2GIWd4FZZbeG9LsOdcql-IAaSBthtsqthMco/s320/cat-lady.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5058959792551295074" border="0" /></a><br /><br />It is a worrying thought though, the fact that food means that much to me that I cannot have even a single day without eating more than I should. I loathe those people who can forget to eat. I think about it all the time. Lunch is the high point of my day. Is that my life? Am I so sad that I have nothing more to take enjoyment in other than eating? I hope to god not, but I suspect I may finally be edging closer and closer to the truth here. When I have been on holiday in the past, I have not thought about food at all. In fact whenever I go on holiday abroad I lose tons of weight because I am just too busy and happy to think about it. My life at the moment by contrast, is in a gigantic rut. I get up, I go to uni and paint all day, come home and collapse. That’s about it. Now while I resigned myself years ago to the fact that I am going to become a sad old cat lady and die alone, I do not want to die due to chronic obesity. Something has to be done. I have asked other people though and we all agree that there is just something about painting that makes you want to eat. Maybe it’s all those calories we burn up thinking so hard. My theory is that it’s because it gets so monotonous. But never mind, it’s not like I could even go out and have fun on a diet anyway. Not at 300 calories per pint.Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-24503476960740804052007-04-29T13:14:00.000-07:002007-04-29T15:29:12.093-07:00Cakey Favours<span style="font-weight:bold;">Wednesday 7th March '07. 71kg</span><br /><br />Well, I am pleased to say that I now finally weigh less than I did since starting this project nearly a year ago. I am also pleased to say that this got a first in the last assessment, so I must be doing something right. (Personally, I think it was the free cake) I am also having a bit of a bad week and my body is reacting the way it always does when I’m upset - by twisting my insides into a tight little nauseous tangle, thus preventing me from eating very much. Yay for me.Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-86965268157852665702007-04-29T13:12:00.000-07:002007-04-29T15:28:57.629-07:00Historical re-enactment society<span style="font-weight:bold;">Wednesday 24th January '07 </span><br /><br />Last night I came up against an interesting problem. In a conversation with my tutor at uni a few months ago, we decided that in order to perpetuate the myth of myself effectively I would need to be dressed up at all occasions at which I would be on display - private views, meetings, tutorials and so on. The slight obsessive streak in my brain being what it is, I have amassed quite a substantial fifties section in my wardrobe for just these sort of events. Of course, me being me, as soon as I had acquired all these fifties clothes, I fell desperately in love with the twenties. Last night I was desperate to wear a beautiful twenties style dress and hat I had just bought to a friend’s private view. The dress being very short, and my legs being rather on the ample side, however, I was forced to wear it over jeans. Not that that mattered to me, it simply gave it a bit of a twist. It was only when I revealed this outfit to my friend the night before the show that she raised the interesting problem in question. “But if you wear that” she exclaimed “you will be negating the whole point of dressing up fifties all the time.” “But I like it.” I replied sulkily. “That doesn’t matter” she said “I thought the whole project was about sustaining an image, whether you felt like it or not.” <br /><br />I thought about this dilemma a lot. The trouble is, if I say I have to dress up fifties for every important event, or even (As my tutors think I should) all the time, then I will never be able to wear any other clothes again. And I do so love those twenties, not to mention my jeans! But then again, I thought, since when did this project become exclusively about the fifties? It was about turning myself into a myth. It was about acquiring a mysterious image of perfection and projecting myself as an artist. The fifties look was just one that I was particularly fond of. So I have made an executive decision not to limit myself exclusively to the fifties. As long as I am turned out to perfection my outfit may range from any era from 1900 to 1959, and I may add modern touches occasionally it the look requires it. Vintage is one thing, historical re-enactment is quite another!Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-32323668531786503622007-04-29T10:09:00.000-07:002007-04-29T15:25:42.175-07:00Britain's Next Top Model<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjmFTLF10yOUwIRobE3IMvRR7Pp6tbw8rQl9eTMov5LX5CU1H7Bx4eqySTUCjZ10La2eyg9lMhBw9WSdEj34c5inrFcaoPgbME5T4BzRtsJ-DYGLU9ARwPm67xM1fFItPfsWUakJ7COjIrs/s1600-h/00340082.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjmFTLF10yOUwIRobE3IMvRR7Pp6tbw8rQl9eTMov5LX5CU1H7Bx4eqySTUCjZ10La2eyg9lMhBw9WSdEj34c5inrFcaoPgbME5T4BzRtsJ-DYGLU9ARwPm67xM1fFItPfsWUakJ7COjIrs/s320/00340082.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5058898735296215090" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Sunday 21st January '07. 75.5kg (Last time I checked)</span><br /><br />Again, it has been a while, but what with the exhibition, Christmas and the forthcoming assessments I just haven’t had the time. The show went off without a hitch thank god, and it has given me a lot more confidence in many areas, especially with ‘displaying’ myself, as it were.<br /><br />The show featured several photographs of me dressed up in fifties and twenties regalia. These had been taken last summer when we went to visit my Nan who lives in Devon. One of my Mum’s ex boyfriends (Who has remained a good family friend) lives not too far away so we went on a trip to see him one day. Now he just happens to be a professional photographer. He used to work for EMI but had moved down to Dorset to set up his own photography business and get away from the rat race. Shortly before our trip to my Nan’s he had requested doing a photo shoot with me in order to advertise his new business. Not being one to pass up an opportunity to dress up, I obligingly arrived with a whole suitcase full of clothes. The shoot itself turned out to be one of the best experiences of my life. It may not sound like much, but for the first time ever I felt genuinely beautiful. I was a little nervous at first, but he soon put me at ease and I took to it like a duck to water. Now don’t laugh, but I will confess that one of my secret, secret dreams has always been to be a model. When I was young I used to dream about it all the time. I knew I never could be, even when I was a size 8, due to a huge scar running across my stomach, (Being 5ft tall at the time didn’t help either) but it never stopped me secretly believing that maybe, just maybe… I used to sit there filling out all the modelling competition forms in my teen magazines for hours. I just somehow never got around to taking a photo and sending it off.<br /><br />I don’t know why exactly, but I have never in my life felt pretty. Of course, there was the scar, a remnant of the accident I had when I was four, but as it is hidden most of the time, it never usually bothers me that much. I was pretty monstrous as an early teen (Glasses, braces, bad hair, overweight – the works) and had all the attendant teasing you would expect, but it was nothing too out of the ordinary. I do have a Mother who is very honest in her opinions on my appearance. I appreciate it actually, and I do love to regale my friends with the fact that I alone had a Mother who, on seeing me coming down for breakfast one morning when I was about thirteen exclaimed “Are you wearing make-up?” “No” I hesitantly replied. “Shouldn’t you put some on?" she said. The only problem with total honestly is than it can lack tact at times, especially when you are young and insecure. She has also been very vocal on the subject of my weight, always has been. I get the definite impression that she is slightly disappointed in me for looking the way I do. But she means well, and I don’t think she has warped my tender young mind too much! So all in all, I can conclude that there have been no significant events in my life to make me feel this way about myself, I just do. And so therefore, must many other women. As we women are so fond of saying, it’s just all the little things that build up over time.<br /><br />The only problem with the photo shoot was that I got into it so much I actually started believing it, so to speak. I felt like a beautiful, mysterious twenties starlet. I felt, in essence like somebody else. When I finally saw the photos they came as quite a shock because there, resolutely staring back up at me was me. I was dressed up, made up and attractively lit, but I was definitely me. I don’t know what I was expecting, a miraculous transformation perhaps, but to say I was disappointed would be an understatement. I am ashamed to say that the only thought running through my head, over and over like some kind of sick mantra, was “god, am I that ugly?” It took me a good month to finally get used to the photos and start seeing them, and myself, for what they were. Now I love the photos, I think I look great in them, even god forbid, pretty.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiHWL0NDj7zAQREp5d5kuX8BzxzlzNjIKB_kZkstJdqKzDo5k8ZHCgkgC8ww5h6Ofgu22B12NszFL7vcm1e4iosDgV5EYurE0AKMiBfKCDV8QVicPJ4rkvgSK_MCI9G-UFvNM1womR4iPcd/s1600-h/00340042+Sepia.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiHWL0NDj7zAQREp5d5kuX8BzxzlzNjIKB_kZkstJdqKzDo5k8ZHCgkgC8ww5h6Ofgu22B12NszFL7vcm1e4iosDgV5EYurE0AKMiBfKCDV8QVicPJ4rkvgSK_MCI9G-UFvNM1womR4iPcd/s320/00340042+Sepia.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5058899044533860418" border="0" /></a>Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-23907807593406020872007-04-29T09:55:00.000-07:002007-04-29T10:08:13.009-07:00A pictoral history<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiaqHCbmxnDChrV-JHSmsR0sGBClg9oHLlpBJnxfrYzs3DmBuD914itGFzkn7sf_m_9qHUAT-JSsk7BVf-escYMbb4Mqto0c-hNIBV-W-fiS-YKnoV05cacmRNx2dJQGlgN0fifU7CHVhPG/s1600-h/img011.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiaqHCbmxnDChrV-JHSmsR0sGBClg9oHLlpBJnxfrYzs3DmBuD914itGFzkn7sf_m_9qHUAT-JSsk7BVf-escYMbb4Mqto0c-hNIBV-W-fiS-YKnoV05cacmRNx2dJQGlgN0fifU7CHVhPG/s320/img011.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5058895952157407266" border="0" /></a>Me at about 12ish<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhktCCQEeyynMOUnhPxE2HNqxdlxRyO_hSiAGcXIdnzm4FEWigQv4aUeVe7B8KuMGCdc6ux2QizR-Bitc9__DlhVUwMzfDNeoFxgchUt3BZswWAumxMpxYdxYkMvnbnpSqgVr6L5feKMTfm/s1600-h/img019.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhktCCQEeyynMOUnhPxE2HNqxdlxRyO_hSiAGcXIdnzm4FEWigQv4aUeVe7B8KuMGCdc6ux2QizR-Bitc9__DlhVUwMzfDNeoFxgchUt3BZswWAumxMpxYdxYkMvnbnpSqgVr6L5feKMTfm/s320/img019.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5058895801833551890" border="0" /></a>My 14th Birthday. That dress is a size 8.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhuBBh3UGllKxTWYQj2UXQVx9P5NkF5ZoI5wvdVvdD2b_IqIB3hvxzz5Y0-CkvxA0f4DgsVnkIC0lYFxTW5tqwW9rRtRwCCBQu26otFQGiHGwkwOl3y_1Z_RvhpM65awnlu-2G19bnUUW-D/s1600-h/img017.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhuBBh3UGllKxTWYQj2UXQVx9P5NkF5ZoI5wvdVvdD2b_IqIB3hvxzz5Y0-CkvxA0f4DgsVnkIC0lYFxTW5tqwW9rRtRwCCBQu26otFQGiHGwkwOl3y_1Z_RvhpM65awnlu-2G19bnUUW-D/s320/img017.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5058895587085187074" border="0" /></a>My 15th Birthday, probably. Here you can see my school uniform and the de rigeur beads we all used to wear.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhZUvIV4yL5ByD-dHoRo6ipB-QXN-4NS6VuFarfu6h7VOfWIxJF0MlnEm0oQ2uCglLSyM_5CXWp21m_0oIW0cl2B_hlPt4AhLEEIKJb0GJBXRnvYCLDO9E0Tlq5gEIV1RHs9EZKWU2LzP3p/s1600-h/img012.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhZUvIV4yL5ByD-dHoRo6ipB-QXN-4NS6VuFarfu6h7VOfWIxJF0MlnEm0oQ2uCglLSyM_5CXWp21m_0oIW0cl2B_hlPt4AhLEEIKJb0GJBXRnvYCLDO9E0Tlq5gEIV1RHs9EZKWU2LzP3p/s320/img012.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5058895441056298994" border="0" /></a>At christmas during a goth moment. I forget when.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgqdqIC2VzK19CdHeC13cq2yAGkm5PcrOsYm2-Hub1OqGS9_Yxq3Lpvr2GgQJMcxDBpe39h_t6nuCREA0JrXzFz0DTDDbYM2607c3KH8c7K7XfsLHAWkNp1V9540QTaUBsEnAwX17J5mkC3/s1600-h/img016.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgqdqIC2VzK19CdHeC13cq2yAGkm5PcrOsYm2-Hub1OqGS9_Yxq3Lpvr2GgQJMcxDBpe39h_t6nuCREA0JrXzFz0DTDDbYM2607c3KH8c7K7XfsLHAWkNp1V9540QTaUBsEnAwX17J5mkC3/s320/img016.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5058895333682116578" border="0" /></a>My year 11 prom. That's me on the right, in front of the vintage Cadillac we drove to school in that evening. That dress is a size 10.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh_wT7lFI86IFZjGDaex7NPGOz_JBPaLZnU0Cy_fhdeUGkfPLIjvNWyU2AAkVtCuTfiOe_Q25HCw9ElwKxbEqpetSTc01TW1vsoC7RzDmYxQVZfDygNOajxiywE2wdocKVmdhHpmb2huZeD/s1600-h/img014.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh_wT7lFI86IFZjGDaex7NPGOz_JBPaLZnU0Cy_fhdeUGkfPLIjvNWyU2AAkVtCuTfiOe_Q25HCw9ElwKxbEqpetSTc01TW1vsoC7RzDmYxQVZfDygNOajxiywE2wdocKVmdhHpmb2huZeD/s320/img014.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5058895209128064978" border="0" /></a>My brother and I on the beach. I would have been about 16 or 17 at the time. You can see my then uniform of hoodie and flared jeans (rolled up here)<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhGFD1RrqwS5_XdpgS5XufhTi_mxbxaVTDYCJnHku_Lr17ltbLABbDu5jDBGEatMjBsTpEMd-qkuogAAAk45_tyd6TT9ad089bqjbfiCEHG27WUeFL_Wt1p5L8gsFtsIfl0_bBHsZxaOoVO/s1600-h/img018.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhGFD1RrqwS5_XdpgS5XufhTi_mxbxaVTDYCJnHku_Lr17ltbLABbDu5jDBGEatMjBsTpEMd-qkuogAAAk45_tyd6TT9ad089bqjbfiCEHG27WUeFL_Wt1p5L8gsFtsIfl0_bBHsZxaOoVO/s320/img018.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5058895123228719042" border="0" /></a>At christmas. I'm probably about 17 or 18 here.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEimGuFPekkG-ygCu8W5Jfp32QwxfRFFng_Qs2k58DEFr3YSwf56eCx31aXbY9mJCdLxYf1uDH7XkdodL5JfHza8VepDH8gyWHsBPdnddGUlMRHGb-Vfh87lQG19QMYd0PWLVi8rZHk5W2Fu/s1600-h/img024.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEimGuFPekkG-ygCu8W5Jfp32QwxfRFFng_Qs2k58DEFr3YSwf56eCx31aXbY9mJCdLxYf1uDH7XkdodL5JfHza8VepDH8gyWHsBPdnddGUlMRHGb-Vfh87lQG19QMYd0PWLVi8rZHk5W2Fu/s320/img024.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5058894998674667442" border="0" /></a>My 21st birthday and all my lovely tea and cake thingsZombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81468785074981060.post-56054300124157596562007-04-29T09:40:00.001-07:002007-04-29T15:26:23.578-07:00Exhibition<span style="font-weight:bold;">Tuesday 14th November '06 </span><br /><br />I’m writing this, post beans on toast with two fried eggs on top. Ah well. In four weeks time I shall be holding a show at uni. It is essentially a fake exhibition – a retrospective at a generic and unidentified ‘Museum of Art’ featuring me as if I was a famous artist. There are no dates or indication of whether I am alive or dead, but there is an elaborate fictional story of my life. This includes such golden nuggets of information as the time I won the Nobel peace prize, and received a damehood from the Queen. Intended as a playful critique of the fake and mercenary atmosphere of the art world as I see it, and the unnecessarily competitive attitude of some of my fellow students, the show will be a play on the myth of the artist as genius and how that can be manipulated to one’s advantage. In it will feature a self-portrait in oils, and several photographs of me dressed up in my fifties attire. It feels such an alien thing to do, promoting myself like this, even if it is intended as a joke. Doing a self-portrait is also a strange thing to do as you have to study your face in such minute detail for extended periods of time. Hopefully all this will help towards the transformation of myself into a myth.Zombiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13702084578402951732noreply@blogger.com0